Successful human relationships also follow the universal principle of balance: passive and active forces, push and pull, black and white, yin and yang. And we are not one or the other all the time. Healthy connections are about giving and taking interchangeably: in my opinion, most people aren't introverts or extroverts all the time. Meeting in the middle of the bridge is a beautiful analogy to all of this. Where I'd differ is that sometimes I'm a taker and I'll want the other person to cross over without much or any ceremony and sometimes it'll be ok for me to be a giver if the other person wants me walking onto his side. There's still balance.
When does this pattern become an anti pattern? when does it result in me turning down an invitation to cross over or denying entry on a day when I'm a taker?
At some point the overthinking threshold is hit. Giving an opinion is an act of faith and courage: I do not know if it will be welcomed. Specially today, where almost any opinion may be seen as a disrespected boundary very quickly. When to give it or be open to put up with one belongs, in my opinion, to the intuitive realm of things.
We all have non-negotiable principles and values, I'm constantly breaking down where mine come from, a personal responsibility we all have: know yourself. Wondering what meeting in the middle to exercise a healthy exchange would look like for two people with complete opposite sets of values and principles.
I may be wrong but it seems to me like true friendships simply take time.
Anthropologist Robin Dunbar wrote an excellent book titled “Friends: Understanding the Power of our Most Important Relationships”. In it he talks about the fact that most people need a number of hours together to form close relationships.
Studies have found that number to be around 200 hours. It seems daunting, but the fact is that we need to invest time to establish those close connections.
Build a social network called Bridges! Use connection metric! MAKE PEOPLE CALL THEIR MOMS MORE OFTEN. Force to meet random MAGA (I mean someone diametrically unlike you), turn it into a challenge and add gamification. Kinda
Since we don't have to stare at screen trying to figure out something anymore and genies do the work.
Maybe it's only me lately, but it sounds like a solid model, like most of your statements.
I'm glad to be connected to you a little bit!
Successful human relationships also follow the universal principle of balance: passive and active forces, push and pull, black and white, yin and yang. And we are not one or the other all the time. Healthy connections are about giving and taking interchangeably: in my opinion, most people aren't introverts or extroverts all the time. Meeting in the middle of the bridge is a beautiful analogy to all of this. Where I'd differ is that sometimes I'm a taker and I'll want the other person to cross over without much or any ceremony and sometimes it'll be ok for me to be a giver if the other person wants me walking onto his side. There's still balance.
When does this pattern become an anti pattern? when does it result in me turning down an invitation to cross over or denying entry on a day when I'm a taker?
At some point the overthinking threshold is hit. Giving an opinion is an act of faith and courage: I do not know if it will be welcomed. Specially today, where almost any opinion may be seen as a disrespected boundary very quickly. When to give it or be open to put up with one belongs, in my opinion, to the intuitive realm of things.
We all have non-negotiable principles and values, I'm constantly breaking down where mine come from, a personal responsibility we all have: know yourself. Wondering what meeting in the middle to exercise a healthy exchange would look like for two people with complete opposite sets of values and principles.
Kent, you explained it really well.
I may be wrong but it seems to me like true friendships simply take time.
Anthropologist Robin Dunbar wrote an excellent book titled “Friends: Understanding the Power of our Most Important Relationships”. In it he talks about the fact that most people need a number of hours together to form close relationships.
Studies have found that number to be around 200 hours. It seems daunting, but the fact is that we need to invest time to establish those close connections.
My reaction to this is, if you don’t have any close friends, start working on your 200 hours.
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.
Build a social network called Bridges! Use connection metric! MAKE PEOPLE CALL THEIR MOMS MORE OFTEN. Force to meet random MAGA (I mean someone diametrically unlike you), turn it into a challenge and add gamification. Kinda
Since we don't have to stare at screen trying to figure out something anymore and genies do the work.
Maybe it's only me lately, but it sounds like a solid model, like most of your statements.